When someone close to you dies, it is normal, and important, to give yourself time to grieve this loss. As a licensed counselor who has had a good deal of training in grief counseling, I cannot emphasize the importance of giving yourself permission to grieve. There are many fine books and online information dedicated to helping those who have lost a loved one. In addition, I highly recommend joining a grief support group. One of the most important things you can do is to take care of yourself. Eat and rest to the best of your ability. Surround yourself with friends and family who are supportive. (Have someone else banish those who are not supportive and who are exhausting.) Choose the most meaningful tasks for you and delegate the rest.
Here, my goal is to provide you with some general information and steps to take in order to assist you in handling the seemingly unending list of “clerical” tasks that must be done at times like these. It is important to note that this is not an all-inclusive list, but rather an overview of steps to take.